There really is....almost always just one thing about men.
I had a friend tell me about the Top 5 of 5. A game in which a person can figure out what kind of person would be a good fit. So here were two women drinking and just having fun- laughing at what we liked and can't stand about men....
Here are the categories-
Top 5 one word characteristics-
Top 5 physical characteristics-
Top 5 must haves-
Top 5 deal breakers-
Top 5 scenarios you want to see yourself in-
This seemed so easy at the time and a fun game to past the time with friends, but as I really began to think about the top 5 I realized that I had a difficult time coming up with what I wanted. All I had even known is what I don't want. Which, yes can be helpful but when it comes to such an important decision as the person you want to send the rest of your life with I was humbled at the idea that I had basically no idea what I wanted in a partner. So, here I am on my quest for what I WANT in a partner.
Still a "work in progress" people...
Top 5 one word characteristics-
Ok, so I have about 20 one word characteristics...(coming up with 5 was just not happening)
-Passionate
-Loyal
-Thoughtful
-Charismatic
-Social
-Intelligent
-Sensual
-Fun
-Assertive (in a little alpha-male way)
-Spontaneous
-Intense
-(well-rounded)
-Worldly
-Caring
-(open-minded)
-Strong
-(well-traveled)
-Conversationalist
-(in-tuned)
-(go-getter)
Top 5 physical characteristics-
I mean this category was is comical... because there are JUST certain characteristics I find instant attraction too...
-Intense eyes (usually darker)
-Darker features (hair, skin)
-Slightly thicker build
-Sweet, genuine smile
-I usually am attracted to someone who has small flaws (it shows me that they are ok with who they are)
Top 5 must haves-
This was what I considered to include my core values.... though my five seem a little silly, I really thought about this and its just what makes sense.
-Must be able to handle my personality (you cannot be scared of me)
-Must have a good sense of self (know who you are)
-Must be able to handle stress well (don't worry about everything)
-Must be good lover (be willing to keep the passion alive)
-Must treat me like a lady (open my door, walk arm & arm with me and get the car of its raining)
-Must love Latin Culture/Music (I love to dance and I will not compromise)
Top 5 deal breakers-
You know, since I have been back into the dating world I have come across some ridiculous men... this list is dedicated to those men...
-I HATE smoking (why on gods green earth would you do something that smells so bad)
-Being Selfish (Do not be a five year old, share)
-Buckling under pressure (Work it out! you are an adult)
-Being conservative (I get there needs to be these types of people, I am just not going to spend my life with someone who is this type)
-Arrogant (You can be into yourself... but thinking your the shit... you can think your the shit all by yourself)
-Doesn't like to go out (I love to go out so you will be required to rally!)
-Bad Manners (I mean chew with your mouth closed...and open my freakin' door!)
-Always HAS to win (I am your partner, not your punching bag)
-Unbalanced (Life is not easy but, TRY to work it out a little.. there is nothing wrong with going to counseling if it will help)
-Being small-minded (I really am shocked at the amount of racism that is still happening and how many of the men I went out on dates with might as well be burning crosses and wearing white sheets)
Top 5 scenarios you want to see yourself in-
This one was difficult because for 7 years I had a scenario of what I wanted, and that was thrown over a cliff. So what do I think now... well I still just have one basic scenario.
-I want to be independent, loving life and have a place to call "home". "Home" is that place where no matter what is going on in your life you can just be. I want to most likely live in the city but, as long as I feel home... I would be happy anywhere. I want to be with someone who is my equal, my partner, my friend and my lover. I want my partner to be able to laugh in the face of disaster and rally at three a.m. just because it would be fun. I see myself with someone who revels in the ebb and flow process of giving and receiving. If I am having a rough day... give me a hug and just listen, let me know I am supported, wanted and loved. In return, I have the ability to support my partner in all areas of his life. I will adore him, let him know through the little things that everything will be ok.
I had a friend tell me about the Top 5 of 5. A game in which a person can figure out what kind of person would be a good fit. So here were two women drinking and just having fun- laughing at what we liked and can't stand about men....
Here are the categories-
Top 5 one word characteristics-
Top 5 physical characteristics-
Top 5 must haves-
Top 5 deal breakers-
Top 5 scenarios you want to see yourself in-
This seemed so easy at the time and a fun game to past the time with friends, but as I really began to think about the top 5 I realized that I had a difficult time coming up with what I wanted. All I had even known is what I don't want. Which, yes can be helpful but when it comes to such an important decision as the person you want to send the rest of your life with I was humbled at the idea that I had basically no idea what I wanted in a partner. So, here I am on my quest for what I WANT in a partner.
Still a "work in progress" people...
Top 5 one word characteristics-
Ok, so I have about 20 one word characteristics...(coming up with 5 was just not happening)
-Passionate
-Loyal
-Thoughtful
-Charismatic
-Social
-Intelligent
-Sensual
-Fun
-Assertive (in a little alpha-male way)
-Spontaneous
-Intense
-(well-rounded)
-Worldly
-Caring
-(open-minded)
-Strong
-(well-traveled)
-Conversationalist
-(in-tuned)
-(go-getter)
Top 5 physical characteristics-
I mean this category was is comical... because there are JUST certain characteristics I find instant attraction too...
-Intense eyes (usually darker)
-Darker features (hair, skin)
-Slightly thicker build
-Sweet, genuine smile
-I usually am attracted to someone who has small flaws (it shows me that they are ok with who they are)
Top 5 must haves-
This was what I considered to include my core values.... though my five seem a little silly, I really thought about this and its just what makes sense.
-Must be able to handle my personality (you cannot be scared of me)
-Must have a good sense of self (know who you are)
-Must be able to handle stress well (don't worry about everything)
-Must be good lover (be willing to keep the passion alive)
-Must treat me like a lady (open my door, walk arm & arm with me and get the car of its raining)
-Must love Latin Culture/Music (I love to dance and I will not compromise)
Top 5 deal breakers-
You know, since I have been back into the dating world I have come across some ridiculous men... this list is dedicated to those men...
-I HATE smoking (why on gods green earth would you do something that smells so bad)
-Being Selfish (Do not be a five year old, share)
-Buckling under pressure (Work it out! you are an adult)
-Being conservative (I get there needs to be these types of people, I am just not going to spend my life with someone who is this type)
-Arrogant (You can be into yourself... but thinking your the shit... you can think your the shit all by yourself)
-Doesn't like to go out (I love to go out so you will be required to rally!)
-Bad Manners (I mean chew with your mouth closed...and open my freakin' door!)
-Always HAS to win (I am your partner, not your punching bag)
-Unbalanced (Life is not easy but, TRY to work it out a little.. there is nothing wrong with going to counseling if it will help)
-Being small-minded (I really am shocked at the amount of racism that is still happening and how many of the men I went out on dates with might as well be burning crosses and wearing white sheets)
Top 5 scenarios you want to see yourself in-
This one was difficult because for 7 years I had a scenario of what I wanted, and that was thrown over a cliff. So what do I think now... well I still just have one basic scenario.
-I want to be independent, loving life and have a place to call "home". "Home" is that place where no matter what is going on in your life you can just be. I want to most likely live in the city but, as long as I feel home... I would be happy anywhere. I want to be with someone who is my equal, my partner, my friend and my lover. I want my partner to be able to laugh in the face of disaster and rally at three a.m. just because it would be fun. I see myself with someone who revels in the ebb and flow process of giving and receiving. If I am having a rough day... give me a hug and just listen, let me know I am supported, wanted and loved. In return, I have the ability to support my partner in all areas of his life. I will adore him, let him know through the little things that everything will be ok.
"Life takes us by surprise and orders us to move towards the unknown- even when we don't want to and when we think we don't need to"
-Paulo Coelho
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